So a last few months we’ve seen so many drastic changes, resently we have lossed a few implacable talents of our film industry, it it was a shock, entire social media was on a rage, suggesting upon boycotting star kids and so on, meanwhile I decided to watch a film. I was browsing through Netflix when I stumbled upon a movie called Dear Zindagi.

Me who typically hates Bollywood all of a sudden decided to watch this one. The film centred around the life of a twenty-something year old city girl named Kaira. With a small circle of close friends, she’s a closet romantic who somehow always manages to get in her own way when it comes to relationships with guys. Add to that a bunch of deep-rooted issues with her family, she’s a sensitive protagonist who lives life with her guard up. Her internal struggles cause her to haphazardly snap at those closest to her but she can’t seem to figure out what’s actually causing this disconnect. So she decides to visit Dr Jehangir Khan, a ‘brain doctor’ or clinical psychologist. The rest of the film depicts how this unconventional therapist helps Kaira to untangle her conflicting thoughts and feelings until she’s finally able to put to bed an unresolved past trauma that had been sabotaging all of her relationships as a young adult.

This film of self-discovery made me realise how Important it is to Talk to someone at the right time, it important for us to express and its not just for us millennials, it as important for the older generations. We could all take away a golden nugget of insight or two from this story, such as:

The fact that it’s ok to choose the easy option sometimes.
That you can look perfectly fine on the outside and still be torn up on the inside.
Happy/sad/confused, always express yourself.
Cut yourself some slack.
Talk to your parents.
But most importantly, the film draws attention to the largely neglected topic of mental health.

For years and years, it’s been acceptable to let people know when you’re going to the doctors for a broken wrist, appendicitis, or kidney failure. But when it comes to seeking professional help to resolve mental health issues, for some reason everyone seems to go quiet. All you hear are whispers. The word ‘crazy’ comes to mind. Going to see a therapist is seen as an EMERGENCY last resort. But even at breaking point, most of us would still say that it’s unnecessary, we don’t need it.

However, the truth is that most of us do, scratch that, all of us do! Depression, anxiety and stress are real-life ongoing issues and illnesses that all of us have to deal with. So why do we make them such taboo topics to talk about? Why do we opt to hide our pain and showcase a fake, invincible exterior instead? Why can’t we just accept the fact that we’re not always ok, and that’s ok!

It’s all well and good having a fully functioning, Greek god style body, but if you don’t feel like your mental health is in tip-top condition, what good are your biceps and six pack? Mental health is just as important as physical health. And maybe if we opted to ‘see someone’ regularly, some of those explosive outbursts of frustration that we all experience from time to time could be avoided.

One thing that I love about the main character, Kaira, in the film is that she’s not presented as being some stereotypical, erratic looney toon. Yes, she suffers from mental health issues, but she’s not depicted as being CRAZY, she’s just conflicted. She’s a normal girl overwhelmed byreal-lifee issues: shock horror! And so the notion of her seeking professional help isn’t conveyed as being such a big deal in the film, but rather a logical solution to a problem that she is facing and can’t seem to solve on her own.

Therapists can provide an objective voice of reason when we’re feeling confused or overwhelmed. They can facilitate a safe environment where we’re able to feel less defensive and more open. And they do say that it’s sometimes easier to talk about your problems to a complete stranger than to somebody you know. Perhaps it’s time to consider the fact that there may actually be some truth to that statement.

I’ve never actually been to see a therapist myself, but if circumstances required me to seek professional help for my mental health, I’d be all for it. I’ll happily put my life in the hands of the nearest ‘brain doctor’ if/when I reach a point where talking to my closest friends and writing blogs no longer keep me sane!

Kaira’s character also demonstrates how bottling things up and avoiding confrontation are surefire ways to allow your pain to eat you up from the inside. Being the ‘strong’ silent type is self-destructive; at the end of the da,y the only person we hurt by keeping mum is ourselves.

Contrary to popular belief, there’s absolutely no shame in voicing our stresses, tensions and worries; it’s ok to not be ok sometimes. We should never be made to feel too embarrassed to admit when we’re struggling and need help. A problem shared is a problem halved, right?